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It is a very irresponsible question.
I had a Java interview scheduled today. I went near the office location and on the way I realized that I was not ready for the interview. The last year at my current job has been a very draining experience due to which I have been unable to polish my skills (no excuses) - which is one of the reasons I was looking for another job in the first place.
On my way to the interview I realized I had not brushed up on my skills for a long time. Previously I have been very good at giving interviews, but this time it occurred to me that it would be a disaster so I just went back home without giving the interview.
Is there anything I should do in order to avoid being blacklisted (if possible)?
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It is a very irresponsible question.
I had a Java interview scheduled today. I went near the office location and on the way I realized that I was not ready for the interview. The last year at my current job has been a very draining experience due to which I have been unable to polish my skills (no excuses) - which is one of the reasons I was looking for another job in the first place.
On my way to the interview I realized I had not brushed up on my skills for a long time. Previously I have been very good at giving interviews, but this time it occurred to me that it would be a disaster so I just went back home without giving the interview.
Is there anything I should do in order to avoid being blacklisted (if possible)?
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This is more of a morale question...rather than a workplace...do you know even when you will be ready?
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
2
Blacklisted from what? That specific company or the entire industry?
– sf02
6 hours ago
2
@sf02 The IT industry is not all that big. There is a very real consideration that if one burns bridges it MAY come back to bite them down the road if he encounters the person that would have hired him in the future. Albeit in this instance, it's slim, since it was only a missed interview.
– Keith
6 hours ago
5
@Keith Are you kidding? The programming industry is huge (and the IT industry is another huge industry on top of it). Unless you're in a very small town and unwilling to move, there is 0 realistic chance of a single missed interview being a problem. Nobody is going to remember that a random interview candidate didn't show up 2 years ago, unless you do something major like not show up via calling in a bomb threat. And the odds you'll ever talk to that HR person again is basically 0. That said, your answer below is great.
– Gabe Sechan
2 hours ago
1
@Keith That entirely depends on where you are looking. For certain areas, the market for quality staff is small, and you keep running into the same people. Java coders are a dime a dozen though.
– Abigail
1 hour ago
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It is a very irresponsible question.
I had a Java interview scheduled today. I went near the office location and on the way I realized that I was not ready for the interview. The last year at my current job has been a very draining experience due to which I have been unable to polish my skills (no excuses) - which is one of the reasons I was looking for another job in the first place.
On my way to the interview I realized I had not brushed up on my skills for a long time. Previously I have been very good at giving interviews, but this time it occurred to me that it would be a disaster so I just went back home without giving the interview.
Is there anything I should do in order to avoid being blacklisted (if possible)?
professionalism interviewing job-search ethics
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It is a very irresponsible question.
I had a Java interview scheduled today. I went near the office location and on the way I realized that I was not ready for the interview. The last year at my current job has been a very draining experience due to which I have been unable to polish my skills (no excuses) - which is one of the reasons I was looking for another job in the first place.
On my way to the interview I realized I had not brushed up on my skills for a long time. Previously I have been very good at giving interviews, but this time it occurred to me that it would be a disaster so I just went back home without giving the interview.
Is there anything I should do in order to avoid being blacklisted (if possible)?
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This is more of a morale question...rather than a workplace...do you know even when you will be ready?
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
2
Blacklisted from what? That specific company or the entire industry?
– sf02
6 hours ago
2
@sf02 The IT industry is not all that big. There is a very real consideration that if one burns bridges it MAY come back to bite them down the road if he encounters the person that would have hired him in the future. Albeit in this instance, it's slim, since it was only a missed interview.
– Keith
6 hours ago
5
@Keith Are you kidding? The programming industry is huge (and the IT industry is another huge industry on top of it). Unless you're in a very small town and unwilling to move, there is 0 realistic chance of a single missed interview being a problem. Nobody is going to remember that a random interview candidate didn't show up 2 years ago, unless you do something major like not show up via calling in a bomb threat. And the odds you'll ever talk to that HR person again is basically 0. That said, your answer below is great.
– Gabe Sechan
2 hours ago
1
@Keith That entirely depends on where you are looking. For certain areas, the market for quality staff is small, and you keep running into the same people. Java coders are a dime a dozen though.
– Abigail
1 hour ago
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This is more of a morale question...rather than a workplace...do you know even when you will be ready?
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
2
Blacklisted from what? That specific company or the entire industry?
– sf02
6 hours ago
2
@sf02 The IT industry is not all that big. There is a very real consideration that if one burns bridges it MAY come back to bite them down the road if he encounters the person that would have hired him in the future. Albeit in this instance, it's slim, since it was only a missed interview.
– Keith
6 hours ago
5
@Keith Are you kidding? The programming industry is huge (and the IT industry is another huge industry on top of it). Unless you're in a very small town and unwilling to move, there is 0 realistic chance of a single missed interview being a problem. Nobody is going to remember that a random interview candidate didn't show up 2 years ago, unless you do something major like not show up via calling in a bomb threat. And the odds you'll ever talk to that HR person again is basically 0. That said, your answer below is great.
– Gabe Sechan
2 hours ago
1
@Keith That entirely depends on where you are looking. For certain areas, the market for quality staff is small, and you keep running into the same people. Java coders are a dime a dozen though.
– Abigail
1 hour ago
This is more of a morale question...rather than a workplace...do you know even when you will be ready?
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
This is more of a morale question...rather than a workplace...do you know even when you will be ready?
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
2
2
Blacklisted from what? That specific company or the entire industry?
– sf02
6 hours ago
Blacklisted from what? That specific company or the entire industry?
– sf02
6 hours ago
2
2
@sf02 The IT industry is not all that big. There is a very real consideration that if one burns bridges it MAY come back to bite them down the road if he encounters the person that would have hired him in the future. Albeit in this instance, it's slim, since it was only a missed interview.
– Keith
6 hours ago
@sf02 The IT industry is not all that big. There is a very real consideration that if one burns bridges it MAY come back to bite them down the road if he encounters the person that would have hired him in the future. Albeit in this instance, it's slim, since it was only a missed interview.
– Keith
6 hours ago
5
5
@Keith Are you kidding? The programming industry is huge (and the IT industry is another huge industry on top of it). Unless you're in a very small town and unwilling to move, there is 0 realistic chance of a single missed interview being a problem. Nobody is going to remember that a random interview candidate didn't show up 2 years ago, unless you do something major like not show up via calling in a bomb threat. And the odds you'll ever talk to that HR person again is basically 0. That said, your answer below is great.
– Gabe Sechan
2 hours ago
@Keith Are you kidding? The programming industry is huge (and the IT industry is another huge industry on top of it). Unless you're in a very small town and unwilling to move, there is 0 realistic chance of a single missed interview being a problem. Nobody is going to remember that a random interview candidate didn't show up 2 years ago, unless you do something major like not show up via calling in a bomb threat. And the odds you'll ever talk to that HR person again is basically 0. That said, your answer below is great.
– Gabe Sechan
2 hours ago
1
1
@Keith That entirely depends on where you are looking. For certain areas, the market for quality staff is small, and you keep running into the same people. Java coders are a dime a dozen though.
– Abigail
1 hour ago
@Keith That entirely depends on where you are looking. For certain areas, the market for quality staff is small, and you keep running into the same people. Java coders are a dime a dozen though.
– Abigail
1 hour ago
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I personally would place a phone call or email to let them know that something came up that you weren't able to make it, and that you had decided to stay where you are rather than seek a new position. Thank them for the time, apologize for not being there when you said you would.
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@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
9
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
4
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
1
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
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Admit it: You're never going to be as "ready" as you want to be, there'll be always room for improvement.
What you did is wrong on multiple fronts, but I'm not going to start criticizing you as you clearly see you're the one with the faults.
You need to do two things:
As of now, for the "damage control", you can call them (or email, but call is preferred) and inform that something unavoidable came up and you were not able to make it to the interview. Also tell them you realized that you were not fully prepared to handle the interview and so to save everyone any further trouble, you did not finally show up. Apologize for the time which is wasted because of you.
Then politely ask for a rescheduling (though it is unlikely you'll get one) and leave it to them.
For future: to ensure this does not happen again, make sure you have your self-confidence boosted before you plan to appear for an(other) interview. That said, remember, it's better to appear and fail than having a no-show.
The first approach will
- At most cost you the time and effort to have the interview
- You'll gain invaluable experience and confidence.
The second one will
- Cost you your "reputation" and "trustworthiness". (very hard to regain)
- You will gain nothing.
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
1
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
6
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
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It would seem polite to contact the company and apologize for the no-show. It's ok to say that you don't feel that you were fully prepared for the interview and admit that it might have been better to contact them as soon as you decided not to progress further.
Unfortunately, you won't be able to give the interviewers back the time that they wasted waiting for you to turn up.
All you can do is be honest with them.
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
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Very few people are ready for an interview. As with everything, practice makes perfect, and that includes job interviews. Just don't waste their time going to interviews for jobs you never intend to accept. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you get rejected. And rejected you will be, over and over again. This happens to everyone and is something you should consider a part of a learning process. Don't take it personal, but instead learn something from each one.
So to answer your question; Don't focus on one company. Never back out because you don't consider yourself prepared well enough. Even if you screw up the interview you can always apply at a later stage.
You should also apologize to the company you left hanging. Not because you want to save the situation but because it's the right thing to do.
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
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You may ask them to reschedule your interview. Also apologize for wasting their time. If the position is still open they might consider you again.
But most of the times these requests are ignored unless your reason is genuine.
thanks @Gabrielle
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
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I personally would place a phone call or email to let them know that something came up that you weren't able to make it, and that you had decided to stay where you are rather than seek a new position. Thank them for the time, apologize for not being there when you said you would.
57
@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
9
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
4
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
1
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
1 hour ago
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I personally would place a phone call or email to let them know that something came up that you weren't able to make it, and that you had decided to stay where you are rather than seek a new position. Thank them for the time, apologize for not being there when you said you would.
57
@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
9
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
4
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
1
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
1 hour ago
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I personally would place a phone call or email to let them know that something came up that you weren't able to make it, and that you had decided to stay where you are rather than seek a new position. Thank them for the time, apologize for not being there when you said you would.
I personally would place a phone call or email to let them know that something came up that you weren't able to make it, and that you had decided to stay where you are rather than seek a new position. Thank them for the time, apologize for not being there when you said you would.
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@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
9
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
4
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
1
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
1 hour ago
|
show 1 more comment
57
@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
9
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
4
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
1
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
1 hour ago
57
57
@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
@Anonymous - As an extra note, in future I would advise going to the interview anyway - the worst that will happen is you'll fail, won't get the job and be in no worse a position than you are now, but you will have gained valuable experience and knowledge on the type of things that get asked in interviews which will help prepare you for future interviews. Additionally - you may find the knowledge comes back to you as you talk and if you show enough enthusiasm, and they are desperate enough for an employee, you might find yourself in a better position than you think!
– colmde
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
Thanks @colmde for the advice. This is exactly why I traveled for the interview and did not ask them to cancel it. I guess I got scared of the mean comments/taunts that I would get :(
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
9
9
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
Professional interviewers should not give you mean comments or taunts. If they do, be glad - you don't want to work for that company.
– CompuChip
3 hours ago
4
4
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
@colmde You should make that an answer so it can be upvoted. The fear of rejection is much more powerful than the actual rejection. I suspect that if the OP went to the interview and got rejected it would weigh much less heavy on them than not going. Don't miss chances. Embrace failure.
– xyious
3 hours ago
1
1
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
1 hour ago
they also may want to hire OP based on their personality, interests, team dynamic, experience...; they're hiring a person, not a Java machine!
– CCJ
1 hour ago
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Admit it: You're never going to be as "ready" as you want to be, there'll be always room for improvement.
What you did is wrong on multiple fronts, but I'm not going to start criticizing you as you clearly see you're the one with the faults.
You need to do two things:
As of now, for the "damage control", you can call them (or email, but call is preferred) and inform that something unavoidable came up and you were not able to make it to the interview. Also tell them you realized that you were not fully prepared to handle the interview and so to save everyone any further trouble, you did not finally show up. Apologize for the time which is wasted because of you.
Then politely ask for a rescheduling (though it is unlikely you'll get one) and leave it to them.
For future: to ensure this does not happen again, make sure you have your self-confidence boosted before you plan to appear for an(other) interview. That said, remember, it's better to appear and fail than having a no-show.
The first approach will
- At most cost you the time and effort to have the interview
- You'll gain invaluable experience and confidence.
The second one will
- Cost you your "reputation" and "trustworthiness". (very hard to regain)
- You will gain nothing.
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
1
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
6
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
add a comment |
Admit it: You're never going to be as "ready" as you want to be, there'll be always room for improvement.
What you did is wrong on multiple fronts, but I'm not going to start criticizing you as you clearly see you're the one with the faults.
You need to do two things:
As of now, for the "damage control", you can call them (or email, but call is preferred) and inform that something unavoidable came up and you were not able to make it to the interview. Also tell them you realized that you were not fully prepared to handle the interview and so to save everyone any further trouble, you did not finally show up. Apologize for the time which is wasted because of you.
Then politely ask for a rescheduling (though it is unlikely you'll get one) and leave it to them.
For future: to ensure this does not happen again, make sure you have your self-confidence boosted before you plan to appear for an(other) interview. That said, remember, it's better to appear and fail than having a no-show.
The first approach will
- At most cost you the time and effort to have the interview
- You'll gain invaluable experience and confidence.
The second one will
- Cost you your "reputation" and "trustworthiness". (very hard to regain)
- You will gain nothing.
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
1
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
6
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
add a comment |
Admit it: You're never going to be as "ready" as you want to be, there'll be always room for improvement.
What you did is wrong on multiple fronts, but I'm not going to start criticizing you as you clearly see you're the one with the faults.
You need to do two things:
As of now, for the "damage control", you can call them (or email, but call is preferred) and inform that something unavoidable came up and you were not able to make it to the interview. Also tell them you realized that you were not fully prepared to handle the interview and so to save everyone any further trouble, you did not finally show up. Apologize for the time which is wasted because of you.
Then politely ask for a rescheduling (though it is unlikely you'll get one) and leave it to them.
For future: to ensure this does not happen again, make sure you have your self-confidence boosted before you plan to appear for an(other) interview. That said, remember, it's better to appear and fail than having a no-show.
The first approach will
- At most cost you the time and effort to have the interview
- You'll gain invaluable experience and confidence.
The second one will
- Cost you your "reputation" and "trustworthiness". (very hard to regain)
- You will gain nothing.
Admit it: You're never going to be as "ready" as you want to be, there'll be always room for improvement.
What you did is wrong on multiple fronts, but I'm not going to start criticizing you as you clearly see you're the one with the faults.
You need to do two things:
As of now, for the "damage control", you can call them (or email, but call is preferred) and inform that something unavoidable came up and you were not able to make it to the interview. Also tell them you realized that you were not fully prepared to handle the interview and so to save everyone any further trouble, you did not finally show up. Apologize for the time which is wasted because of you.
Then politely ask for a rescheduling (though it is unlikely you'll get one) and leave it to them.
For future: to ensure this does not happen again, make sure you have your self-confidence boosted before you plan to appear for an(other) interview. That said, remember, it's better to appear and fail than having a no-show.
The first approach will
- At most cost you the time and effort to have the interview
- You'll gain invaluable experience and confidence.
The second one will
- Cost you your "reputation" and "trustworthiness". (very hard to regain)
- You will gain nothing.
edited 6 hours ago
answered 6 hours ago


Sourav GhoshSourav Ghosh
6,79143054
6,79143054
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
1
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
6
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
add a comment |
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
1
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
6
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
Thanks @Sourav. I know I screwed up. I was not confident due to the mentioned reason. I have been too loyal to my current company for too long and it has cost me :( Will follow your advise
– Anonymous
6 hours ago
1
1
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
@Anonymous Believe me, nothing you did, cannot be undone. Leave the past, gear up and prepare to face the future. The future will be what you make of it. Best of luck.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
6
6
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
I don't see a reason to tell them you are unprepared. Other wise i agree with Sourav
– jesse
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
@jesse That is because, they'll know you're telling the truth (some people are pretty good judge of others). At least, you'll know you are telling the truth. Telling the truth may not help you achieve anything, but neither will lying.
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
add a comment |
It would seem polite to contact the company and apologize for the no-show. It's ok to say that you don't feel that you were fully prepared for the interview and admit that it might have been better to contact them as soon as you decided not to progress further.
Unfortunately, you won't be able to give the interviewers back the time that they wasted waiting for you to turn up.
All you can do is be honest with them.
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
add a comment |
It would seem polite to contact the company and apologize for the no-show. It's ok to say that you don't feel that you were fully prepared for the interview and admit that it might have been better to contact them as soon as you decided not to progress further.
Unfortunately, you won't be able to give the interviewers back the time that they wasted waiting for you to turn up.
All you can do is be honest with them.
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
add a comment |
It would seem polite to contact the company and apologize for the no-show. It's ok to say that you don't feel that you were fully prepared for the interview and admit that it might have been better to contact them as soon as you decided not to progress further.
Unfortunately, you won't be able to give the interviewers back the time that they wasted waiting for you to turn up.
All you can do is be honest with them.
It would seem polite to contact the company and apologize for the no-show. It's ok to say that you don't feel that you were fully prepared for the interview and admit that it might have been better to contact them as soon as you decided not to progress further.
Unfortunately, you won't be able to give the interviewers back the time that they wasted waiting for you to turn up.
All you can do is be honest with them.
answered 6 hours ago


Snow♦Snow
63.3k52208253
63.3k52208253
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
add a comment |
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
thanks @Snow...
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
At a large majority of interviews I've been on, the interviewers were working until they were told I had showed up, so more than likely they were still productively working instead of doing nothing and sitting in a conference room. There's a good chance no significant time was lost, so essentially "no harm, no foul". However, that doesn't automatically excuse the no-show. The OP just shouldn't beat themselves up for what was likely a minimal disturbance to the people and company.
– computercarguy
10 mins ago
add a comment |
Very few people are ready for an interview. As with everything, practice makes perfect, and that includes job interviews. Just don't waste their time going to interviews for jobs you never intend to accept. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you get rejected. And rejected you will be, over and over again. This happens to everyone and is something you should consider a part of a learning process. Don't take it personal, but instead learn something from each one.
So to answer your question; Don't focus on one company. Never back out because you don't consider yourself prepared well enough. Even if you screw up the interview you can always apply at a later stage.
You should also apologize to the company you left hanging. Not because you want to save the situation but because it's the right thing to do.
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
add a comment |
Very few people are ready for an interview. As with everything, practice makes perfect, and that includes job interviews. Just don't waste their time going to interviews for jobs you never intend to accept. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you get rejected. And rejected you will be, over and over again. This happens to everyone and is something you should consider a part of a learning process. Don't take it personal, but instead learn something from each one.
So to answer your question; Don't focus on one company. Never back out because you don't consider yourself prepared well enough. Even if you screw up the interview you can always apply at a later stage.
You should also apologize to the company you left hanging. Not because you want to save the situation but because it's the right thing to do.
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
add a comment |
Very few people are ready for an interview. As with everything, practice makes perfect, and that includes job interviews. Just don't waste their time going to interviews for jobs you never intend to accept. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you get rejected. And rejected you will be, over and over again. This happens to everyone and is something you should consider a part of a learning process. Don't take it personal, but instead learn something from each one.
So to answer your question; Don't focus on one company. Never back out because you don't consider yourself prepared well enough. Even if you screw up the interview you can always apply at a later stage.
You should also apologize to the company you left hanging. Not because you want to save the situation but because it's the right thing to do.
Very few people are ready for an interview. As with everything, practice makes perfect, and that includes job interviews. Just don't waste their time going to interviews for jobs you never intend to accept. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you get rejected. And rejected you will be, over and over again. This happens to everyone and is something you should consider a part of a learning process. Don't take it personal, but instead learn something from each one.
So to answer your question; Don't focus on one company. Never back out because you don't consider yourself prepared well enough. Even if you screw up the interview you can always apply at a later stage.
You should also apologize to the company you left hanging. Not because you want to save the situation but because it's the right thing to do.
answered 4 hours ago
dan-klassondan-klasson
25216
25216
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
add a comment |
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
There are actually good reasons for going on interviews to places you don't expect to accept a job from. This goes into the "practice makes perfect" as well as simply scoping out options. Even if someone isn't actively looking, they should still be "open to opportunities", and that can include an interview. This can also signal to their current employer that they "need" extra incentive to stay, such as a raise or more benefits. Some employers can take it as a reason to fire or red flag an employee, so it depends on the company culture whether it's safe or not.
– computercarguy
6 mins ago
add a comment |
You may ask them to reschedule your interview. Also apologize for wasting their time. If the position is still open they might consider you again.
But most of the times these requests are ignored unless your reason is genuine.
thanks @Gabrielle
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
add a comment |
You may ask them to reschedule your interview. Also apologize for wasting their time. If the position is still open they might consider you again.
But most of the times these requests are ignored unless your reason is genuine.
thanks @Gabrielle
– Anonymous
1 hour ago
add a comment |
You may ask them to reschedule your interview. Also apologize for wasting their time. If the position is still open they might consider you again.
But most of the times these requests are ignored unless your reason is genuine.
You may ask them to reschedule your interview. Also apologize for wasting their time. If the position is still open they might consider you again.
But most of the times these requests are ignored unless your reason is genuine.
answered 6 hours ago


GabrielleGabrielle
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thanks @Gabrielle
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thanks @Gabrielle
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This is more of a morale question...rather than a workplace...do you know even when you will be ready?
– Sourav Ghosh
6 hours ago
2
Blacklisted from what? That specific company or the entire industry?
– sf02
6 hours ago
2
@sf02 The IT industry is not all that big. There is a very real consideration that if one burns bridges it MAY come back to bite them down the road if he encounters the person that would have hired him in the future. Albeit in this instance, it's slim, since it was only a missed interview.
– Keith
6 hours ago
5
@Keith Are you kidding? The programming industry is huge (and the IT industry is another huge industry on top of it). Unless you're in a very small town and unwilling to move, there is 0 realistic chance of a single missed interview being a problem. Nobody is going to remember that a random interview candidate didn't show up 2 years ago, unless you do something major like not show up via calling in a bomb threat. And the odds you'll ever talk to that HR person again is basically 0. That said, your answer below is great.
– Gabe Sechan
2 hours ago
1
@Keith That entirely depends on where you are looking. For certain areas, the market for quality staff is small, and you keep running into the same people. Java coders are a dime a dozen though.
– Abigail
1 hour ago